Q & A: By Alysa Monét & Co.
Today on the blog I have Alysa Monét of by Alysa Monét & Co. Not only is she the owner and lead designer of her planning company, but she’s also a mental health practitioner. I have loved hearing her speak so passionately about her work in the field, and how she works closely with couples to help them remain present, stress-free, and excited throughout their entire planning process.
In today’s post, Alysa is sharing with us strategies to stay grounded right now, how to elevate your wedding design *and* incorporate sustainability with a smaller wedding, her #1 tip for how to prioritize your wedding budget, and so many more goodies you'll just have to read on to find out! Enjoy!
Today on the blog I have Alysa Monét of by Alysa Monét & Co. Not only is she the owner and lead designer of her planning company, but she’s also a mental health practitioner. I have loved hearing her speak so passionately about her work in the field, and how she works closely with her couples to help them remain present, stress-free, and excited throughout their entire planning process.
In today’s post, Alysa is sharing with us strategies to stay grounded right now, how to elevate your wedding design *and* incorporate sustainability with a smaller wedding, her #1 tip for how to prioritize your wedding budget, and so many more goodies you'll just have to read on to find out! Enjoy!
Q: Hey Alysa, welcome! Tell us a little about yourself, where you’re located, and the services you offer.
Hey! My name is Alysa Monét and I’m the owner and lead designer of by Alysa Monét & Co. I’m located in San Jose, Ca, which is also my hometown! I offer a variety of services to engaged couples including wedding day coordination and full service wedding planning. I’m a designer at heart so it excites me to be able to participate fully in the wedding planning process with my couples but at the end of the day, I truly just enjoy working with couples who are in love however they need my support. Most of my weddings have taken place up the California central coast and I’m available for travel anywhere worldwide (pending COVID restrictions, of course!)
My sister and my husband are an integral part of my business and team and bring a breadth of perspective and experience to the wedding planning process and the wedding day production. There’s definitely an art to working with family and I think we’ve nailed it. Working weddings together comes with a lot of laughing, snacks (SO many snacks), and singing ABBA’s Dancing Queen at least once (it’s become a ritual for us).
Outside of wedding planning and designing I also work in the mental health field with children in foster care and with children in juvenile detention. It’s tough work but it fills my cup up and splitting my time in these two fields helps me exercise different parts of my creativity, which I really appreciate and enjoy.
Q: What are some misconceptions clients have about hiring a wedding planner? Can you debunk these for us?
I think most couples worry that hiring a wedding planner removes their own participation in planning and preparing for their wedding day, which can feel like a turn off for those with a strong sense of what they’d like and who worry about turning over control of that vision. I 100% shared this mindset when I was engaged so I can personally really relate. My own wedding day vision was very clear and I worried that hiring a planner would result in a cookie-cutter wedding that didn’t feel like me or my fiance (now husband). In reality, hiring a wedding planner actually allows for your wedding day vision to be elevated by a professional who knows how to incorporate trends in a cohesive and seamless way that is also representative of you.
Q: Let’s talk trends. What are some you’re loving, and some you’re thinking it’s time to move on from?
Over the last 2 years I’ve loved watching and participating in the growing trend of micro weddings, which has kind of chicly replaced the concept of elopements and involves a ceremony and reception of under 50 people. Especially with COVID in mind, I highly encourage couples to strongly consider the size of their wedding guest list when planning their wedding. Weddings can be incredibly expensive and a budget is definitely impacted by the number of attendees. A wedding day design can be elevated by simple tweaks to the guest list and most couples are surprised to see how much of their budget is allocated to catering; depending on the size of their budget, this can reduce the budget for many other services. Budget aside, a micro wedding provides the most magical and romantic intimacy that none of my couples have ever regretted. Last thing about micro-weddings, another huge perk is how environmentally conscious they can be. Less guests hopefully also means less waste.
In terms of trends that need to go… Can we finally get rid of lengthy and complicated wedding hashtags?! No one seems to remember to use them! Also… signs in every corner! Don’t get me wrong, I love a beautiful sign and more so, I especially love when signage is strategically and minimally placed throughout a wedding.
Q: Where do you find your inspiration, outside of Pinterest?
Instagram! I follow a ton of Instagram pages that are focused on landscape photography, home decor, and fashion, which help me stay up to date with trends and also keep me inspired. Some of my favorite pages are:
Q: Can you give us a sneak peek into your design process?
The design process for me often starts in my head (which may seem obvious) and as I’m drafting up design boards I typically play music that reflects the inspiration behind the design plans. Music is such a vehicle for me to identify textures and colors that match a couple’s aesthetic and when I’m participating in the wedding day production I often play the same music to remain inspired. Way, way before I get to this point though, I love to meet and get to know my couples, understand their design visions and even spend time reviewing their Pinterest boards to get a sense of what they do and don’t like design wise.
Q: In your opinion, what’s the most impactful part of a wedding day design?
Florals! I’m a sucker for gorgeous flowers in general but wow, florals make all of the difference!
Q: When discussing budget for event design, where do you encourage your clients to invest and prioritize their budget?
A $5.00 wedding with a $5000.00 photographer will make your wedding seems like it was worth $5 million - I exaggerate but, the investment in a photographer will not disappoint.
Q: What are some mistakes clients make when thinking and planning their wedding day design?
Integrating too many trendy details at once. I think it’s so important for a wedding to feel timeless and too many trendy details can lead to regrets when you look back on your wedding photos in 5, 10, 50 years! (Think 80’s and puffy sleeve dresses!)
Q: You’re also a mental health practitioner and recently graduated with a masters in social work. Congrats! How does your work in that space impact your work as a wedding designer?
I am! My work as a mental health practitioner and as a wedding designer incorporate a lot of the same values: mainly, connection. Fundamentally, we as humans need to feel connected to one another and so much of my training around mental health allows me to be present with my clients and support their growth and development as a soon-to-be-married-couple as much as I’m supporting and facilitating their wedding day desires. My motto (which is super cheesy, I know) is that by taking care of the tough wedding work, I open up space for my couples to have a “marriage more beautiful than their wedding day.”
Q: Have you developed any new daily routines or rituals throughout shelter in place?
Months 1 and 2 of shelter-in-place felt like I was manically incorporating a billion daily rituals to try and survive. I’m talking yoga in the mornings, a leisurely walk in the afternoon, zoom calls with any and everyone, playing a “work-from-home” playlist… the works! Now, I make sure I get fully dressed (even with shoes) in the mornings, and I try to do as many of the same things in the morning that I would’ve done if I were actually heading out for the day. I try to take care of as many household chores throughout the day so that when I’m officially “off work” I can just relax! It’s been working really well for me and these weeks are feeling enjoyable again!
Q: It’s no secret that wedding planning is stressful. Add a pandemic on top of that, and there can be serious impacts on mental health. What are some tips you have to help engaged couples cope?
Prior to COVID I’ve always asked my couples to agree on 5 non-negotiables for their wedding day (in terms of needs, wants, desires) and then “let go” of every other expectation outside of those 5 non-negotiables. I stole this from the show Millionaire Matchmaker (haha!) but it’s been an incredibly useful strategy to help keep my couples grounded throughout the planning process. Especially now that we’re in such an unpredictable time, aligning priorities at the very beginning of wedding planning is necessary if couples are going to get through this time level headed. I also urge couples to consider premarital counseling if financially feasible (several providers are offering services at a sliding scale rate right now).
Q: What are some centering practices you recommend for couples when it comes to the chaotic day-of?
Meditation! Am I sounding too much like a therapist right now?!
Also, a stress free wedding day includes surrounding yourself with a top notch getting-ready-crew who are going to help keep you level headed and excited. I think couples should take time to really consider this one!
Q: For couples hosting an intimate or smaller wedding, what’s a tip you have for creating thoughtful (and safe) experiences for them and their guests?
A couple that I recently worked with set up their “reception” dancing music to include music that was meant for couples. This eliminated the awkwardness of figuring out how to dance and social distance and was such a sweet moment that they shared with their guests during their short reception. The love was potent during this wedding!
Q: For anyone looking to step up their at-home entertaining game, what are your go-to at-home entertaining hacks?!
I am the most extra person when it comes to home entertaining and I really love a good theme (this drives my husband nuts). Anytime we host friends or family I find a theme that centers around our gathering and then research a game that’s in alignment with that theme. I find one or two food or drink items that are in alignment with the theme as well and then keep everything else simple. Am I doing the absolute most? Probably! Does it always make for a fun and memorable night? 100% yes.
Q: What does the next chapter of By Alysa Monét & Co. look like? Where do you see yourself and your business 5 years from now?
I’ve always had the dream of one day growing my business to incorporate services that are related to mental health and wellbeing. I’d love to one day be able to work with couples during their engagement as their wedding planner and designer, and then continue that work following their wedding day to offer marriage focused counseling and support.
Thanks so much for joining, Alysa!
email: hello@byalysamonet.com
instagram: @byalysamonet
website: byalysamonet.com
Q & A: Lea Stafford of Lea Stafford Events & Ethos West Collective
Today on the blog we have the amazing Lea Stafford of Lea Stafford Events, sharing with us more about the inspiration and mission behind Ethos West Collective, her hopes for the future of weddings and events, some of her favorite Black-owned businesses, and a sneak peek into the future of her business.
Lea Stafford, Lea Stafford Events
Today on the blog we have the amazing Lea Stafford of Lea Stafford Events and Ethos West Collective.
I first met Lea back in May through a mutual connection, and we immediately hit it off and started collaborating. Lea’s commitment to leading a life and business that is authentic and uniquely hers is inspiring. She’s not afraid to break the rules when it comes to experiential design and I can’t wait to see what comes next for her new brand launch.
In today’s post, Lea is sharing with us more about the inspiration and mission behind Ethos West, her hopes for the future of weddings and events, some of her favorite Black-owned businesses, and a sneak peek into the future of her business.
Q: Hey Lea, welcome! Tell us a little about yourself, where you’re located, and the services you offer.
I am a mother, wife, friend, and authentic lifestyle advocate. My business offers special event production and design services focusing on those who are willing to share their unique story. The next phase of business will concentrate on highlighting tips on how to maintain a healthy and sustainable living model. I am located in Oakland, Ca.
Q: Congratulations to you and your co-founders on the launch of Ethos West Collective! Can you tell us more about what inspired you to launch this, and the mission behind it?
Experiencing the lack of diversity and representation within this industry has been heavy on my heart for the past 10 years. Finding a creative and positive way to fill what I consider to be a major void became my mission about a year ago. I yearn for the same level of support and partnership opportunity as our non-Black community, it is crucial and vital to the health and sustainability of the wedding and events world.
When it came time to reach out to other professionals in the same space to support this vision, I knew I had to reach out to my local friends and creatives Chanda Daniels and Erica Estrada. I wanted a multi-talented founding team, uniqueness and truth were also very important to me. We each bring a little something different to the table. Chanda was tapped for her experience in the world of events and hospitality, and for her commitment to supporting equality. Erica was requested to join the founding team as I knew her creativity and passion for change would remain present in the spirit of the collective.
As a free-spirited non-conformist who holds a willingness not to play by the rules, I plan to drive the Collective's mission and tone by constantly encouraging a sense of community amongst the partners, members, and industry colleagues. My hope is that my push for equity will become the standard, and continue to be ever-present in both my storytelling and work.
Q: What are some ways couples can thoughtfully plan a wedding centered around values of inclusivity, diversity, and anti-racism?
It truly begins with self-reflection. In order to successfully plan and execute an authentic and value-driven wedding, you must identify what that means to you as an individual. Once that has been identified, you move forward with the pulling out the essential components, whether this means, people, food, visual stimulation, written content, location, etc. From there, you have created a sound base to move forward with the next steps in your planning process.
Q. What do you wish you saw more of in the wedding and events industry?
An unapologetic approach. I truly see a lack of diversity in not only the skin color represented, but also the design and tone of a wedding within our industry. We have got to do better when it comes to being confident in showcasing concept and design. Having a unique wedding that stands out from the next should be the norm and sadly, it is not.
Q: What are 3 of your favorite, most inspiring Black-owned design/wedding/maker businesses you follow on IG?
@maggisimpkins (engagement/wedding rings)
@joyproctor (event design)
@lynndunston (photography)
Q: Where do you find your inspiration, outside of Pinterest?
I find inspiration in my natural surroundings, food & beverage, and movies/shows.
Q: Can you give us a sneak peek into your design process?
The first step is to get to know the client I am partnering with on a deeper level. I pull out their values and goal for their wedding or event day. From there, I strip it all down to the essential elements, isolating the story or mission. I then identify the appropriate colors, and core texture to be used to share the story. Finally, the experience is introduced. An experience is necessary (in my opinion) to keep folks engaged, and my hope is that it will serve as a gentle reminder for the very reason they are gathering and celebrating.
Q: What does the next chapter of Lea Stafford look like? Where do you see yourself and your business 5 years from now?
I am currently working on the launch of my lifestyle brand. When I began my event planning and design company, I knew the long term goal was to become a lifestyle brand. Home entertaining tips and tricks, bespoke home good products, recipes, as well as event planning and design will all be offered under this brand's umbrella. What makes this particular model a bit different is that its mission is to bring the people a platform that amplifies the voices of a community artists that have been marginalized. I will partner with local farmers and BIPOC creatives highlighting their stories, encouraging the concept of local participation, as well as offering high quality and sustainable goods. This is my way of living in my truth, experiencing my love daily, and giving back to the community that has raised me.
Thanks so much for joining, Lea!
GET IN TOUCH
email: lea@leastafford.com
instagram: @leastaffordevents
website: www.leastafford.com
Q & A: Elise Brannan of Brannan Events & Design
Today on the blog we have a Q & A with Elise Brannan of Brannan Events & Design. In this post she’s sharing ways your wedding planning can be impactful to both your community and the environment.
Elise Brannan, Brannan Events & Design
Today on the blog we have Elise Brannan of Brannan Events & Design, who offers planning services throughout the Bay Area.
I've been so inspired by Elise, not just for her bold and unique wedding designs, but for her steady commitment as an event professional to making conscious, inclusive, and sustainable decisions when producing events. She’s an ethical vegan activist and intersectional environmentalist helping her couples and clients make informed decisions when it comes to their big days.
Since I’ve already learned so much from Elise, I wanted to bring her on here to share with you some of her ideas around conscious spending, inclusive vendor teams, and ways your wedding planning can be impactful to both your community and the environment.
Q: Hey Elise, welcome! Tell us a little about yourself, where you’re located, and the services you offer.
I'm Elise, a vegan event planner based in the East Bay Area where I live with my partner, Michael, and our fur babies! I was born in LA and lived there until I was about 10 (and we go back all the time) so I like to think of myself as a native to both northern and southern California lol!
I offer event services including management, design, and planning. As an ethical vegan and intersectional environmentalist I also try to guide my clients to make more conscious, inclusive, and cruelty-free choices throughout the planning process.
Q: What inspired you to launch your business centered around conscious, inclusive, and sustainable practices?
I started in event management when I was 18. I was involved with various non-profit groups growing up and when I was 18 I was a part of an executive board for Northern California, where we planned large scale events and fundraisers. That's where my passion for event planning began! I loved being able to bring people together with a common purpose in mind and I'm a social butterfly so I loved all the networking opportunities and thought - this would be an amazing job one day!
When I first came into the wedding world in 2014 I was definitely less conscious and sustainable. I became vegan in 2017 and in doing that really began to reevaluate my business, what it stood for and how it can be a force for good. It's still an ever evolving process but in my personal life I try to do as little harm as possible (and our everyday choices do lead to harm if we're not careful - something as simple as food selection can have a real impact) so I wanted to translate that to my business.
Inclusivity is incredibly important to me as well. Whether it's recommending specific vendors or even recommending another planner (as I know I'm not the perfect fit for all couples, and that's totally ok), I want to encourage clients to work with people of color. There is SO MUCH whiteness in the wedding and event space and it's up to planners (as we typically manage any given event) to go out of our way to make sure BIPOC vendors and businesses are included. I don't always get it right but I'm ok being called out on my mistakes and committed to doing better everyday. We have so much work ahead of us as an industry but I'm feeling hopeful.
Q: What’s a common misconception couples have when it comes to ‘eco-friendly’ wedding planning?
I think many couples think it's just about "waste", and they have a narrow vision of what waste actually is. When I look at being eco-conscious, it's not just about not using plastic straws. It's all about thinking how any given item involved with their wedding was cultivated, made, and transported. And it's important to take a look at the workers and their working conditions along the way. Only then can you make a truly informed decision. It definitely requires a couple being willing to think critically and consciously about every aspect of their wedding.
Q. What is the top area couples can look to reduce waste from their wedding day?
FOOD. I know food feels like it's a very personal choice and it is, but if those personal choices aren't thought about critically, you're not seeing all the harm it creates along the way. Removing animal products from the dining experience will make an enormous impact! It will reduce water waste and CO2 emissions drastically. It takes approximately 2,400 gallons of water to create 1lb of steak — now imagine 100 guests ordering said steak. And this is before we even consider appetizers and late night bites.
There's the human side of it too. Think about the marginalized slaughterhouse worker — the emotional, mental, and physical toll of having to slaughter 100s or 1000s of animals a day for the 15-20 minutes of momentary pleasure an individual gets from eating it. Most of the time working conditions for those individuals are horrible, they get paid very little and those slaughter houses pollute the area they're located in (often marginalized communities of color).
Lastly, there's an animal side. Many of my clients are self-proclaimed animal lovers and there is an animal cost to this. Innocent creatures, as friendly and as loving as your pets, end up on the plate. We see this as fine dining but it's really layered cruelty.
Also — vegan food is just delicious, healthier for your body, with a much lower impact!!
Q: You’re known for your beautiful, bold, unique, and conscious designs. Can you give us a sneak peek into your design process?
Thank you so much! My design process always starts with getting to know my couples on a personal level. I really want to infuse parts of who they are and what brought them together as a couple, as a part of their wedding design. We talk about everything from favorite TV shows, to how they would describe their home decor style, to what are their favorite activities to do together, to their personal fashion style. After getting a sense of who they are as a couple and what they want their wedding to represent I dig into creating the design around that!
Q: Let’s talk trends. What are some you’re loving right now?
I LOVE micro weddings! This isn't a new trend but they are some of my favorite weddings to design and execute. As COVID-19 continues to limit group gatherings, I think it's the direction the wedding industry is going to naturally take for the foreseeable future. Micro-weddings also allow for a smaller overall budget, but they give couples room to invest in the things that really matter to them.
Another trend I love is monochromatic color palettes! Where we focus on one bold hue and play around with complimentary shades throughout the design. It's fresh and memorable!
Lastly, I'm loving the eco-wedding trend, which is probably obvious but worth saying again :)
Q: What are some tips for couples when it comes to evaluating vendors?
For particular vendors, I think it's important to look for specific things but overall — I'd suggest getting to know your vendors before booking them — whether that's a FaceTime or a call or a coffee date. Make sure it feels like a great vibe, especially for those vendors that you'll be spending the most face to face time with on the day of the wedding.
I'd also ask them about their sustainability and inclusion practices. If they don't have anything concrete laid out, you may want to pivot. Vote with your dollars and invest in someone who believes in the importance of those principals, like you.
Q: When discussing budget, I love to guide my couples to impactful design decisions, a.k.a. ‘bang for your buck’ pieces. Where do you encourage your couples to invest and prioritize their budget when it comes to design?
Your ceremony decor! Your ceremony is such a short piece of the wedding day celebration, but it's also likely going to be some of your most important and cherished photos. I'd make sure to invest in the ceremony decor and then make sure that those pieces are getting reused throughout the reception space! Get as much mileage out of those pieces as possible.
Q: Name 3 small business owners that inspire you.
Food Empowerment Project (Lauren Ornelas)
Souley Vegan (Tamearra Dyson)
Package Free Shop (Lauren Singer)
Q: I’ve been working hard to lead a low-waste lifestyle both in my business and at home, so I’m curious: what is your favorite low-waste life hack?
Homemade is almost always less wasteful; whether that's homemade meals from whole food/simple ingredients, or homemade cleaners and beauty products
I love Imperfect Foods - our farmer's market is shut down at the moment so Imperfect Foods allows me to save products that wasn't "good enough" for the grocery store, from ending up in the trash
Shopping second-hand! I love shopping second-hand because it means clothing or goods get a longer life and there's typically little to no packaging involved.
Q: What is the difference between Vegan v. Plant Based?
There is a big difference between these two principals and I'll reference an awesome activist (@fulanivegan) and his descriptions:
Plant Based: In a 1980 study by T Colin Campbell Phd, the positive benefits of eating a plant based diet were established. The term plant based originated from this study completely separate from any view on ethics. A plant based diet can consist of 100% or mostly plant based diet.
Veganism: The term was created by Donald Watson in 1955 to describe someone who doesn't eat any animal products and rejects the commodity status of animals. The practice has existed for thousands of years as 'moral vegetarianism'. Vegans also do not wear leather, wool, silks etc. Ethical Veganism is a philosophical belief.
Q: What is Intersectional Environmentalism?
I get this question because it's in my bio and on my website! I'll quote someone who helped coin the term, Leah Thomas: "This is an inclusive version of environmentalism that advocates for both the protection of people and the planet. It identifies the ways in which injustices happening to marginalized communities and the earth are interconnected. It brings injustices done to the most vulnerable communities, and the earth, to the forefront and does not minimize or silence social inequality. Intersection environmentalism advocates for justice for people and the planet."
Thanks so much for joining, Elise!
GET IN TOUCH
email: elise@brannanevents.com
instagram: @brannan_events + @elise_thevegan
website: www.brannanevents.com
5 Epic and Meaningful Ways to Elope in the SF Bay Area
Despite a pandemic, couples are finding new ways to celebrate their love in ways that fit their styles best. Read on as we hear from some of our favorite professionals in the Bay Area to bring you LOTS of inspiration plus HOW-TO TIPS for adapting your Bay Area celebration in meaningful ways.
Jenn Emerling Photography
I think many of us may agree that finding silver linings and creative ways to celebrate love during a pandemic is one of our collective go-to coping mechanisms these days. While wedding plans everywhere are being put on hold for the safety of couples, guests, and vendors, a few silver linings we’ve encountered include:
love is not canceled
you two are still perfect for each other
there are many things in life, big and small, still worth celebrating
Couples are finding ways to celebrate each other in ways that fit their styles best -- whether it’s by simply honoring and celebrating their original wedding date, making things legal STAT with a tiny ceremony, or tapering plans to a smaller intimate gathering.
After so much planning and anticipation, changing your vision to fit a new type of celebration can feel daunting. We’re finding that by tweaking our mindset, intimate gatherings create a whole slew of things to look forward to. They’re the perfect opportunity to finally seize those ideas that never made the cut in your original plans (read: that super amazing but slightly impractical outfit, that wild but totally your style HMU look, not to mention *actually* having time to enjoy your entire meal!?).
Regardless of which route you choose, know that this celebration has so much potential to be special for you both. The memories made will surely be ones for the books. Trust us here, and read on as we talk to some of our favorite professionals in the Bay Area to bring you inspiration and how-to tips to adapt your Bay Area celebration in meaningful ways.
1. ON YOUR STOOP
Have you seen THIS stoop wedding in Brooklyn? What better place to exchange vows than the very spot you call home!? The locale makes it even easier for your friends and family to drive or parade by at a safe distance in celebration of your nuptials.
PRO TIP: In the event your front stoop lacks curb appeal (hi renters like me!)...turn to flowers. Flowers can be a game changer here, and something the neighbors surely can’t complain about right? Work with your floral designer to create a ground-up or winding staircase installation that will not only create a beautiful backdrop, but will lead visitors and passersby to the very spot of your I Dos. Bonus: ask for loose flower petals and have your drive-by guests help you pull of a ‘toss’ which will make for beautiful (and memorable) photos.
PRO TIP: If you’re opting for professional photos (we hope so and promise it’ll be worth it!), keep in mind that the best time for frame-worthy portraits depends on the direction your house faces and will vary as the light changes throughout the day. Have your photographer scout out your spot ahead of time to help you plan the best time of day to capture beautiful (read: non-squinty) photos! -- Sarah Eichstedt Photography
PRO TIP: Share something sweet with visiting friends and neighbors. Packaged petite sweets like custom cupcake favors available for curbside pickup will have everyone circling back around the block for more. -- Samantha Mayfair Cakes
PRO TIP: Consider having a photo taken of each of your guests as they stop by your front porch, photo-booth style. These portraits will both serve as sweet thank you gift and an alternative wedding day guest book! -- Sarah Eichstedt Photography
2 - ON YOUR ROOFTOP
There’s no shortage of epic rooftops in San Francisco. If you’re able to ~safely~ access yours, you can incorporate fresh air and city views into your at-home celebration. Have your friends and neighbors on neighboring rooftops ready to cheer and pop champagne as you say I Do.
PRO TIP: Ask your floral designer to create a tablescape of varied flower arrangements to complement your wedding color palette, for pickup or no-contact dropoff on the big day. Afterward, place the flowers throughout your home to keep the beauty going in the days to come. Or, go big with an arch, arbor, or ground-up installation that complements the vista and serves as a memorable photo opp.
PRO TIP: A tiny ceremony shouldn’t preclude you from sealing the deal with a slice of something sweet. Work with your baker to order a miniature version of your wedding cake. Then maybe take it a step further and add in some wrapped treats such as cupcakes, slices of cake, or mini cakes, to be delivered to your surrounding neighbors. Can you imagine everyone looking on from their own rooftops as you all cut the cake together? -- Samantha Mayfair Cakes
PRO TIP: Call in the experts! A professional photographer for your rooftop wedding will have the right equipment and lenses to be able to photograph you safely from a distance while still capturing intimate moments and close-up details. -- Sarah Eichstedt Photography
3- SEASIDE
Sunnier days are ahead and there’s no time like the present to get outside to exchange your vows. Following your nuptials, have a seat and enjoy a private picnic just the two of you, with friends and family stopping by for a celebratory bonfire and s’mores.
PRO TIP: Tap your caterer to see if they are offering to-go dinners for their couples. Surf & turf anyone?! If that’s not an option, pick your favorite local date night spot and Postmates your favorite dishes. -- Hitched by Haley Planning
PRO TIP: Reach out to a trusted floral designer and ask them for their recommendations. We suggest a ground-up floral installation in the shape of a crescent to serve as your altar or ceremony backdrop. Not only can it withstand the ocean breeze, but it will create a photo opp ~moment~. Better yet, ask that your designer incorporate native and seasonal elements that will perfectly complement the seaside landscape.
PRO TIP: We recommend doing some research to find the best beach, or better yet, tap your photographer to scout locations ahead of time. The perfect spot will feel secluded yet easily accessible (especially when considering older family members) and have some tall trees nearby helpful for blocking unexpected wind. Since some beaches can get very windy around sunset, check the weather app to see what the wind mileage will be that day. Usually anything above 15-20mph will be uncomfortable. -- Monica Lam Photo
4. UNDER THE REDWOODS
With a minimized guest list, take advantage of peace and quiet and go the extra steps into nature. Exchanging your vows underneath the trees will do just that. Just be sure to check your local park to make sure the park is open!
PRO TIP: Tap your wedding DJ for a custom playlist that you can use for a silent disco under the trees. If you have friends and family who couldn’t make it, send them that playlist or invite them to join in remotely from their homes! -- Hitched by Haley Planning
PRO TIP: We trust this is going to be a day that you, your loved ones, maybe even your future children, and your grandchildren will look back on for years to come. Hiring a professional photographer will allow you to capture the people, moments, and details that matter the most! -- Sarah Eichstedt Photography
PRO TIP: For flowers, try something you weren’t considering before. Ask your floral designer for ideas for ‘wearables’ such as a fun floral headpiece, floral scrunchie, or floral tattoo. These are all items that won’t break the bank, but will make a statement. Many florists can accommodate a hassle-free dropoff or pickup for small orders.
PRO TIP: A smaller celebration gives you lots of opportunity to get extra creative with your vision for the day. If you need ideas, lean on your vendors! Be sure to communicate your ideas and share your pinterest boards with your vendors so they can run with it. -- Monica Lam Photo
5. IN YOUR BACKYARD
If you have one, chances are your backyard is looking better than ever thanks to DIY home projects and gardening while staying at home. Reap the benefits of your hard work and host an intimate celebration, for just the two of you or with any quarantine buddies. Stir up your signature cocktail, cue your wedding playlist, and dance that first dance like nobody’s watching. Pssst: lighting is everything! Add string lights and candlelight for a boost of intimate ambiance.
PRO TIP: Work with your wedding florist to create something that conjures up your original wedding vision, such as a ground-up floral installation surrounding your sweetheart table or a cozy tablescape with mixed flower arrangements or a bountiful fresh garland.
PRO TIP: Tap whoever was going to give a speech at your wedding to share a brief toast, either in-person or remotely via Zoom. -- Hitched by Haley Planning
PRO TIP: A dessert station is perfect for maintaining proper distance among attending guests. To make the dessert station that much more personal to you and your spruced-up garden, consider signature sugar flowers that coordinate with the flowers growing in your yard or neighborhood. -- Samantha Mayfair Cakes
SOME PARTING ADVICE…
We know that upending your plans can initially feel daunting, uncertain, and just downright sucky. But you have a community around you that is here to support you and whatever your visions may now be. As you navigate this, here are some parting words from professionals in the Bay Area community.
Know that despite a smaller guest list, there’s no need to sacrifice big ideas. An elopement may be small in size, but you can make it as big and bold as you’d like. Remember to be your most romantic, adventurous, and silliest selves on your special day, and the memories will surely last a lifetime. -- Monica Lam Photo
At the heart of what we do is honor life’s most special moments. The challenges we’re facing has realigned our hearts and perspective on just how sweet the simple things are. While we encourage all of our clients to take all the time they need to grieve their original wedding date and take a break from planning, we love seeing you get back to daydreaming about your special day. Because at the end of the day, you still get to marry the love of your life and you still deserve that dream-worthy wedding. LOVE STILL WINS. -- Hitched by Haley Planning
Look inward and really think about what’s most important to the both of you and what will make you happiest and start there! Reach out to your vendors and see how they might be able to make your vision work -- whether that’s an epic floral installation on your front yard, an over the top outfit, a summer dress and makeup free look, or something in between; you’ll never regret listening to your heart instead of just doing what’s trendy. -- Sarah Eichstedt Photography
And a note from me: Your celebration is *meant to be*. Regardless of date, time, location, and guest count. My goal is to make it extra special for you, and support you along the planning process. Contact us here to chat all-things elopements and small celebrations. If you’re in need of a little inspiration, head to my Pinterest page here for more ideas!
Thank you to these helpful vendor contributors! Each offer a unique collection of elopement services and we can’t wait to see the magic they create.
Floral Design: Anastasia Andenmatten (website / instagram)
Cake Artist: Samantha Mayfair Cakes (website / instagram)
Planning: Hitched by Haley (website / instagram)
Photography: Monica Lam (website / instagram)
Photography: Sarah Eichstedt (website / instagram)
Note: As government-mandated guidelines vary state by state and change often, be sure to follow your state guidelines and do what feels safe for you, your guests, and your vendors. For more up-to-date guidelines, check the CDC as well as your state’s website.
A Guide to Vision Boarding with Purpose
I’d like to share with you a part of my creative process that I’ve found really helpful, especially in the past few weeks: vision boarding. Vision boarding is a tool I’ve implemented both in my personal life and in my business. Here’s what you’ll find in this post:
The truth about vision boards
Step-by-step instructions to create an effective vision board
3 real life examples of vision boards I’ve created
Two weekends ago I sat on the couch and read the NYTimes. It was cold and rainy outside. If all went according to plan, we would have been in the desert, a place I go once a year during the off-season to rest, reset, and renew inspiration. But life changed very quickly for all of us.
Then it occurred to me that yes, life is very different now. But can’t we still find inspiration around us? Dream about the future?
“Hope will not be cancelled. May we lean into the good stuff that remains.”
I think we can all benefit from hope and inspiration right about now. So I’d like to share with you a creative process I implement for both my personal life and my business: vision boarding. Vision boards serve as a tool to not only clarify your goals, but actually manifest destiny. I know it sounds cheesy, but hear me out. Here’s what you’ll find in this post:
The truth about vision boards
Step-by-step instructions to create an effective vision board
3 real life examples of vision boards
WHAT IN THE WORLD IS A VISION BOARD?
A vision board is a physical representation of your aspirations, curated by you and for you, to serve as a tool to help those aspirations come to life. It can be a collage of magazine clippings on a bulletin board, a PDF of imagery that’s saved as your phone’s wallpaper, or anything in between. Also known as a mood board, dream board, inspiration board, or design board.
Think of it as like...Pinterest, but intentional? And without targeted ads.
WHY MAKE A VISION BOARD?
The majority of people are visual learners. Consider the Law of Attraction, which is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. By putting images in front of you, you are sending a message to the universe about your hopes and dreams, and opening yourself up to inspiration and guidance.
If you’re eye-rolling right now, I totally get it. That used to be me. But then I tried vision boarding and, seriously, I found it really helpful. As a creative process, vision boarding:
Takes you away from your daily routine and gets creative juices flowing
Brings you clarity, by taking the noisy jumbled thoughts in your head and organizing them into a crystal clear picture of what it is you want
Serves as a daily reminder to stay motivated to achieve your goals
Opens you up to new sources of inspiration as you start to hone your vision
HOW CAN I MAKE ONE THAT WORKS FOR ME?
By looking at your vision board as a tool with a specific purpose, rather than just a collage of pretty pictures, it’s more likely to help you manifest your vision.
Below are 8 steps to creating a vision board that works for you.
#1 - Have a Purpose
Think about what areas of your life seem most overwhelming or in need of a change, or a challenge ahead. Lean into that one specific goal as you design your board. Here are some examples of specific purposes:
Business - a design visualization for a client
Special Event - inspiration for hosting your friend’s bridal shower
Personal - images that propel your health goals
Career - what your dream business looks like
Travel - places, people, food for the trip of a lifetime
Home - how you envision your first home, or a room makeover
#2 - Set the Mood
I recommend finding some uninterrupted time and space for yourself to do this solo. Grab your beverage of choice, light your fave candle. If you’re into journaling, put pen to paper and list out your goals for the board. If you meditate, or rely on music, do it. By setting the mood, you will find that you’re already on the right path.
#3 - Curate Imagery
Start by looking around you to find what inspires you most: the architecture in your neighborhood, the views from your window, the colors and textures of your wardrobe, books or magazines, photos from past travels, quotes or lyrics.
The secret to finding imagery that evokes feelings is to have no agenda. Aim to collect images that speak to you. Avoid the literal interpretations of what you want in your life, and instead simply focus on how an image makes you FEEL. Here are a few platforms I use for this:
Pinterest: This tool can be especially overwhelming. But instead of using keywords to find the exact thing you have in mind, simply start saving images that are beautiful to you. From there, Pinterest will serve you related images via the ‘More Ideas’ feature and eventually you’ll find images you love.
Instagram: Your feed is likely already curated with images relevant to you, your style, and your aesthetic. Instagram’s Save feature comes in handy. Under ‘Saved’ you can save everything you love in one spot or under separate folders.
Tumblr: For tons and tons of images and content
#4 - Add Variety
Your vision board doesn’t need to be limited to just images. Try adding color palettes, fabric swatches, quotes or mantras you find inspirational, or sketches. Nothing’s off limits. By adding some variety, the board will have more depth.
#5 - Simplify, Simplify, Simplify
It’s okay if you end up with a ton of inspiration. But the point of a vision board is not to overwhelm yourself. It should instead give you clarity when you need it most. Try limiting your board to 7-15 images that truly speak to you. By limiting clutter and chaos on your board, you can limit clutter and chaos in your mind. And a selective vision will feel that much more attainable.
#6 - Choose your Medium
You’ll want to showcase your vision board via a medium that suits your lifestyle.This could be your phone or desktop background, cork board, wire grid panel, or simply a collection of images taped to your wall.
#7 - Get to Designing
It’s time to pull everything together. If you’re going the old-fashioned route, all you really need are scissors, glue or tape, and a place to put it all. If you’re going digital, here are a few tools I’ve tried:
Adobe: I’ve used both InDesign and Spark for boards before and love them. Note: Adobe is subscription-based and comes with a learning curve.
Canva: The most user-friendly and cost-effective in my opinion. Their free version is where I design my floral design clients’ design boards as well as my own vision boards (examples below).
Google Doc: A familiar tool never fails. This is a simple and free option to organize your images.
#8 - Look at it Daily
Display your vision board prominently in a place you frequent, e.g. above your desk, on your closet door, as your phone background or computer wallpaper. Let it serve as your daily reminder that your dreams can be your reality.
Here are a few real life examples of vision boards to give you some ideas and help you get started.
SAMPLE A. —
CLIENT DESIGN
SAMPLE B. — MY BUSINESS
SAMPLE C. — MY WEDDING
I hope you feel inspired to try this creative process. At the very least, may this bring you light, or inspiration, or some sense of clarity or purpose during these uncertain times.
If you end up trying this, let me know!
Follow me on IG @anastasiaandenmatten and send me a DM
28 SF Restaurants Ideal for a Small Celebration
Dreaming up a distant celebration once things are back to normal? Here’s a list of some of the best spots in San Francisco for private events AND ways to support them through this time. Whether it be an intimate wedding, anniversary party, City Hall elopement celebration, or wedding rehearsal dinner you’re planning, you won’t go wrong choosing any of these.
The truth of the matter is, pandemics can’t stop us from celebrating life’s most special moments. While events may be postponed as we focus on our role in social distancing, they are not canceled altogether. The fun will go on. In fact, I have a hunch post-pandemic celebrations will be even more special.
Dreaming up a distant celebration once things are back to normal? With the help of industry friends, past and current clients, and *personal* research (meaning I personally ate all the foods and drank all the drinks) I’ve compiled a list of some of the best spots in San Francisco for private events.
The list isn’t limited to restaurants, but also includes cafes, bars, and intimate private event spaces. Whether it be an intimate wedding, anniversary party, City Hall elopement celebration, or wedding rehearsal dinner you’re planning, you won’t go wrong choosing any of these.
NOTE: Given many small businesses are truly hurting during this time, please consider supporting any of which you’re a big fan. Below I note specific ways some of these local San Francisco spots need our help, but a few general ways to support local businesses right now include:
Ordering take-out or delivery
Purchasing gift cards to gift others or use for future date nights
Submitting a 5-star review on Google or Yelp
1. OCTAVIA
Neighborhood: Pac Heights
Known for: the chef’s table situated in the middle of the kitchen for prime mealtime interaction
No. Guests: 12-70
Website: www.octavia-sf.com
To help, donate to their employee fund here
2. ABV
Neighborhood: Mission
Known for: cocktails that are simply out of this world
No. Guests: 20-150
Website: www.abvsf.com
To help, donate directly to a fund established for their team members here
3. BERETTA
Neighborhood: Mission
Known for: the inventive cocktails and thin crust pizzas that make this a true San Francisco staple
No. Guests: 45
Website: www.berettasf.com
4. CENTRAL KITCHEN
Neighborhood: Mission
Known for: the industrial loft space feat. family-style meals by Chef Thomas McNaughton of Flour + Water (remember P+C’s springtime wedding here??)
No. Guests: 16-100
Website: www.centralkitchensf.com
5. CERF CLUB
Neighborhood: Tenderloin
Known for: an artistic and eclectic backdrop just begging for a modern minimalistic wedding
No. Guests: 60-108
Website: www.cerfclub.com
6. CHE FICO
Neighborhood: Nopa
Known for: handmade pasta and Neapolitan pizza in what was once an auto body shop
No. Guests: up to 16
Website: www.chefico.com
To help, support their efforts to buy up to 120 dinners for those in need EVERY SINGLE night here
7. COOKHOUSE
Neighborhood: North Beach
Known for: the blank slate, state-of-the-art loft kitchen that will have you plotting to move in full time
No. Guests: 8-30
Website: www.cookhousesf.com
To help, donate funds to support their staff here
8. ANGLER
Neighborhood: Embarcadero
Known for: the taxidermy-filled Game Room feat. a life sized bear and top notch oceanic fare
Website: www.anglerrestaurants.com
To help, donate directly to a fund established for their team members here or purchase gift cards to Saison and Angler on their website
9. DEL POPOLO
Neighborhood: Nob Hill
Known for: the cozy heated garden patio and the wood-fired pizza made famous by their truck
No. Guests: 50-125
Website: www.delpopolosf.com
To help: donate to their employee fund here
10. THE DORIAN
Neighborhood: Marina
Known for: Stylin digs in the heart of the Marina
No. Guests: 10-250
Website: www.doriansf.com
11. FIORELLA
Neighborhood: Richmond District
Known for: the ‘grammable Bay Area Toile wallpaper and thin-crusted Neapolitan pies
No. Guests: 20
Website: www.fiorella-sf.com
12. THE SNUG
Neighborhood: Pac Heights
Known for: comfy vibes (hence the name), small-producer beers and wines, and upscale California comfort food
No. Guests: 10-135
Website: www.thesnugsf.com
13. FOREIGN CINEMA
Neighborhood: Mission
Known for: their outdoor heated courtyard in full view of the nightly ‘drive-in’ style film (remember M+K’s winter wedding here?)
No. Guests: 12-350
Website: www.foreigncinema.com
To help, donate funds directly to their employees here or order their cookbook here
Image by Hillary Jeanne
14. LE MARAIS BAKERY
Neighborhood: Marina & Castro
Known for: canapés, champagne, patisseries … and my personal favorite, raclette
No. Guests: 20-150
Website: www.lemaraisbakery.com
15. LEO’S OYSTER BAR
Neighborhood: FiDi
Known for: Have ya seeeeen the interiors? The raw bar and speakeasy ain’t too shabby either
No. Guests: 14-110
Website: www.leossf.com
16. MARIANNE’S
Neighborhood: SoMa
Known for: the beautifully appointed speakeasy style salon behind The Cavalier
No. Guests: 20-50
Website: www.mariannessf.com
17. MARLOWE
Neighborhood: SoMA
Known for: the neighborhood bistro ambiance and definitely the burger
No. Guests: 16-90
Website: www.marlowesf.com
18. STARBELLY
Neighborhood: Castro
Known for: the heated patio and casual friendly neighborhood vibes
No. Guests: 20-110
Website: www.starbellysf.com
19. MISTER JIU’S
Neighborhood: Chinatown
Known for: beautifully executed Chinese cuisine and their new Moongate Lounge
No. Guests: 80
Website: www.misterjius.com
To help, donate directly to a fund established for their staff here
20. QUEENS
Neighborhood: Inner Sunset
Known for: Korean classics and a communal table for a cozy celebration in this superette
No. Guests: 8
Website: www.queenssf.com
To help, purchase gift cards here to directly benefit employees and neighborhood businesses
21. STABLE CAFE
Neighborhood: Mission
Known for: the gorgeously manicured garden smack dab in the middle of hustle and bustle
No. Guests: 100
Website: www.stablecafe.com
22. SCHOOL NIGHT
Neighborhood: Dogpatch
Known for: hand-crafted pisco, agave and whiskey cocktails and Latin-inspired bites
No. Guests: 85-120
Website: www.schoolnightsf.com
23. TROU NORMAND
Neighborhood: SoMa
Known for: The heated patio and host-your-own-charcuterie parties
No. Guests: 12-100
Website: www.trounormandsf.com
24. UNGRAFTED
Neighborhood: Dogpatch
Known for: the fancy wines in an approachable setting
Website: www.ungraftedsf.com
To help, order a meal kit with paired bottle and tune in for virtual Monday Blind Tastings here
25. WAYFARE TAVERN
Neighborhood: FiDi
Known for: the multitude of well-appointed gathering spaces (and their burger)
No. Guests: 16-80
Website: www.wayfaretavern.com
26. WILD SEED
Neighborhood: Marina
Known for: an approachable plant-based menu crafted by omnivores
No. Guests: 40-60
Website: www.wildseedsf.com
27. TWENTY FIVE LUSK
Neighborhood: SoMa
Known for: its vibbbe (previously a meatpacking and smokehouse facility), cocktails, and rooftop terrace. Remember L + A’s black tie wedding here??
No. Guests: 15-650
Website: www.25lusk.com
Image by Dani M Photography
28. PARK TAVERN
Neighborhood: North Beach
Known for: their private Eden Room and the deviled eggs
No. Guests: 50-60
Website: www.parktavernsf.com
Okay so tell me, what did I miss?
Please share your favorite SF spots for private events in the comments below!
Mister Jiu’s image by Buena Lane
Cerf Club image by Olivia Marshall
Stable Cafe image by Lauren Crew
Trou Normand image by Vicki Grafton